I’m having a real problem meeting suitable dating material. I’m 29 and I’ve been single for a while now and would like to find a chap I could share my time with.
I’m really into the vintage lifestyle and try to show this with how I dress every day. It goes without saying that I also do my hair and makeup in a similar vein, and I think perhaps this is scaring men off!
What can I do? I don’t want to end up living as a spinster!
K. Hunter, London
You don’t say in your letter how you are trying to meet men. Allow me to make some suggestions. You need to put yourself out there, I know it sounds like a cliché, but most cliché’s are true, and this one is no exception.
If you always go to the same places at the same times with the same group of friends- nothing will change. You have to get out of your regular routine- do something different. Go to a different bar, join a book club, go to the gym, try online dating- www.rockabillydate.com does what it says on the tin- but you never know until you try.
With your interest in vintage why not sign up for some dance classes- Lindy Hop is a fun and energetic dance and you might be surprised how many men are actually interested in it. A good site for more information in where you are in London is www.swingoutlondon.co.uk.
Most importantly though, have fun and be yourself. The vintage lifestyle is just that- a lifestyle. Remember it’s not who you are. No one can tell by looking at you that you are a wiz at making Green Thai Curry or that your favourite film is Rocky.
My point is whatever your lifestyle choice, goth, punk, vintage, it’s still you that someone will want to get to know- not just how you look.